FAQ's - Frequently Asked Questions
- If I go to a meeting,
will I have to talk?
No one is required to talk at any meeting. We understand how difficult
that can be when our grief is so fresh. We do ask that you listen, however.
- My child was an adult
and didn't live at home. Can I still go to a meeting?
Chapter meetings are open to all families who have experienced the death
of a child, at any age, from any cause. Regardless of age, we in TCF
believe our children will always be thought of as just that.....our
- Is there a charge
There is never a charge to attend a TCF meeting. Our chapters rely on
voluntary donations from members, friends and the community at large.
We also do fund raising activities supported by our membership.
- What happens at a
Some meetings are simply introducing ourselves and sharing our thoughts
and feelings. At other times, chapters have short programs before the
sharing time. The programs may include a brief guest speaker, viewing
a video tape, or listening to an audio tape. Depending on the size of
the group we will split up into smaller groups and either discuss similar
topics or support random discussions. At times we will also have special
activities or topics in one of these groups.
- Can I bring a friend
Of course, you can bring a friend, but we ask that they, as well as
all members, respect each other's privacy. It is important for us to
be able to share freely within our group and be sure confidences will
- My husband says he
won't come with me. Can I come alone?
Yes. We all grieve differently and he may not be ready to take part
just yet...or ever. And, likewise, many husbands attend meetings without
- My child died from
AIDS. Will I still be welcome?
Yes. All families who have experienced the death of a child at any age,
from any cause, are welcome.
- Religion doesn't matter
to me anymore. Can people at a meeting accept that?
I think you will find TCF members are very tolerant of any views. After
the death of a child, many priorities, as well as values, change.
- I have baby-sitting
problems. Would it be all right to bring my five year old with me?
While we understand the difficulties of finding child care, we must
ask that any children under 18 years of age not be brought to our sessions.
While we all love children, it is very difficult, at times, to keep
them from being distracting to others and at the same time may cause
individuals to hold back feelings that they need to get out into the
open. Some chapters have sibling groups for children twelve or older;
at this time we do not.
- Do I need a reservation
before I come to a meeting?
No reservations are needed. Just come whenever you feel up to it. We
will ask that you fill out a short membership form which primarily gets
you on our mailing list for the monthly newsletter and Children Remembered
sheet. All information is held in confidence and not shared with anyone
without your specific permission.
- My child died seven
years ago, and I postponed my grief work. Now it's catching up with
me. Is it too late to come now?
We all grieve differently. Many parents don't feel the need of a support
group until years after the death of a child. It's all right to come
whenever you are ready, whether it's soon after your child's death,
months later or years later.